Sunday Snippet: FIGHTING FOR OUR TITS by Lola Scarborough

Today’s Sunday Snippet is an extract from the health and fitness book FIGHTING FOR OUR TITS by Lola Scarborough.

About FIGHTING FOR OUR TITS by Lola Scarborough

If you are hungering for a book that is no-nonsense, easy-to-read, jam-packed with useful information, wise, funny as hell, and designed with keeping your breasts on your chest in mind, you will fall in love with Fighting for Our Tits! Containing some of the latest research on breast health, as well as suggestions on diet, exercise, emotions and little-known alternative approaches to healing, it showcases Scarborough’s 40 years of study, knowledge and personal experience in working with women’s health, healing, and living an empowered life. The information contained within these pages leads the reader on a journey that opens the mind and the heart as she explores breast health in a new and refreshing way. Your boobs will absolutely quiver in delight!
•Rediscover and tap into your own inherent healing power
•Learn how and why current medical processes and technologies might be endangering your health and discover alternatives that are safe and effective
•See how emotions impact the onset and progression of illness and learn to reset your emotional realities
•Understand how commonly used products adversely impact breast health
•Learn about your energy body and how it impacts the health of the physical body
•Learn the importance of diet, nutrition, and exercise in terms of overall health in general and breast health in particular
•Discover a comprehensive world of different alternative and natural paths to healing and wellness – from Medical astrology to Past Life Regression to Earthing to Herbs and everything in-between!

 

CHAPTER 4

Caring for Our Emotional Self

Emotional reality, unlike physical reality, is created rather than
observed. By and large, people create the emotional reality in
which they live. Unfortunately the choice of which reality we
create is usually made by default, a kind of habitual automatic
pilot derived from temperament, metabolism, and experience.
The human brain filters information within its default choices,
processing that which conforms to them and excluding that which
deviates from them. The result can keep us pretty much stuck in a rut.

Steven Stosny, Ph.D.

We think our reality is current and rooted in the present …
but oftentimes our emotional reality is nothing more than a
reflection of stuck thought processes – habits of thinking and
behaving in certain ways that we learned when we were young and
which have become automatic defaults in our lives. We don’t
realize that we are acting out programmed behaviors because
they’ve become second nature. Until we can see and adjust these
behaviors to fit our actual current circumstances, we are held by
them as prisoners of a frozen past. In order to be fully alive and
healthy, we must break free.

Case in Point

I was the oldest of eight children. My mother was often the
child and I was often the adult in the relationship. If bad shit
happened, it was due to a failure on my part and I received what was
sometimes very severe punishment. That was my real reality for a
formative period of my life. Why? Because I was the oldest and she
was out of control. I had to watch out not only for myself when the
drunks got mean and crazy; I had to watch out for a bunch of little
kids and babies as well. And I had to watch out for her – a couple
of times, some of the men she lived with almost killed her.
As a result of my early training, my default emotional
reality is that when anything goes awry in the lives of people I’m
close to I am always somehow at fault. I am on high alert at all
times. Self-blame, followed by self-punishment, is where I always
go to when something happens to someone I care about or love.
(Hell, it even happens with strangers.) It is a stuck pattern in my psyche.

After any of these episodes, it always takes me a while to
journey back to the reality of making others, not me, responsible for
their lives and the outcome of their behaviors. This pattern is
detrimental to my health and wellbeing. It is rooted in my past and
not in the now. It does not serve me or others. But it is a default
setting in the hard-drive of my emotional reality — as unreal as it is.
It requires constant monitoring on my part not to be overtaken again
and again.

Resetting Our Reality

Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask
yourself if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.

Deepak Chopra

Emotions are very complicated. There is no fast or easy fix
for the neural pathways that repeated emotional experiences and
disturbances create within us. Deep-seated, sometimes irrational
and confusing, our default emotional realities are hidden just below
our view. We can’t see them – they’ve become subconscious
programs that just run on their own. However, once we come to
clarity around one of those defaults, we have the opportunity to
clear some of the debris of “old” emotions from our subconscious.
As we do this spring cleaning, we begin to reset our emotional
reality. The result is we become more emotionally and mentally
balanced and healthy and in the now.

For myself personally, and also for many of the clients I
have worked with, yoga and meditation are key players in resetting and establishing new emotional realities.

There are also many life-coaching techniques that can help push the reset and get us going in a more balanced direction.

***

If your interest has been piqued by today’s Sunday Snippet, you are encouraged to purchase your own copy of the book FIGHTING FOR OUR TITS by Lola Scarborough via your favourite book retailer or from Amazon

In the meantime, author Lola Scarborough will be making an appearance in the virtual cafe that is The Segilola Salami Show on the 29th of January 2019 to talk about how working as a hands-on energy healer led her to write FIGHTING FOR OUR TITS.

Please leave a comment below, I would love to know what you think of today’s Sunday Snippet: FIGHTING FOR OUR TITS by Lola Scarborough.